It's not easy to cope with cancer when you go to the doctor and he tells you that you have cervical cancer. I'll be honest with you, it still bewilders me how to this day, I still have no idea how, what was said, or where.
It's like my mind just went blank and I had no thoughts or feelings. However; do remember that I hesitated a good couple hours before I let my husband call my parents.
It was such a shock that we didn't know where to go, who to call, nothing. It was like a bomb just went off and there was no way out and I was trapped.
Should you tell your family and friends you have cancer? In my opinion, yes- tell your family and friends First of all, it's their right to know; secondly, it can help you get it off your shoulders. You can't hold something like that in, and you must tell your family you have cancer.
My husband called my family and said he needed to tell them something and it was important and set a time for them to come over. It wasn't something he told them over the phone. We sat them down and explained to them what was going on.
Having cervical cancer, I should have never even thought that was a stupid question to ask what I ate or if I slept that day, but at the time, I didn't care. All I knew is that I had to deal with this awful disease and didn't know how. I had a baby to take care of and was still almost a newlywed.
Coping with cancer of any kind, might be the hardest thing you ever do. Know that it's okay to feel overwhelmed, angry, sad or every emotion possible. Each patient takes the news differently and there is no "right way" to feel. You are on an emotional roller coaster that just keeps going and never ceases to stop.
The most terrifying time I remember looking at my son the day after I was diagnosed with cervical cancer and wondering who was going to take care of him? Sure, I was married, but there is nothing like a mother and that bond.
Coping With Family And Cancer
You can't really say you have cancer and that's all you know when talking to family. It is hard for others as well, and you have to try and understand that. I remember when the phone rang off the hook daily.
I would get so frustrated because I would seem to get some of the (I thought) dumbest questions. For instance: I would get phone calls asking me what I ate. I just couldn't get myself to understand why that type of question would even matter. I was so angry!
When I was going through all the cancer issues, I really didn't care what I ate for dinner because I didn't feel like eating half the time. I couldn't figure out why they couldn't understand either. Really deep down, I honestly understood and I really knew that everyone was just deeply concerned about me. Now that I think back, I feel like I was being selfish, I couldn't help it .
What I seemed to have found out what worked best for me was when the all the radiation treatments started. As I tried to explain to you earlier, the treatments were a relief. I felt like something was finally being done to rid of this horrible thing that invaded my body.
This is how the words "you have cancer" affect you: You want to run, but you don't know where; You want to scream, but it's like no one will hear you; Your adrenaline is rushing through your body so hard, so fast you can literally feel it; You can feel your blood running through your veins, but yet you are numb; You feel like you just died, but yet you are still standing; Your head is spinning and you cannot think nor can you speak.
There is not enough words in the to put together and describe the feelings you have. Just know that there are places to contact for help and there are people that really do care and want to help and you would be astonished and amazed the outpouring of help. As a former cancer patient, I can totally sympathize with your feelings and all your emotions. Feel free to contact us for support.